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Hi all,
I posted a while back about my husband's emotional affair last year and again I am looking for some support please...

He was back in touch with her in February, and then left our home for 2 weeks in March, professing that he knew he was being vacant and therefore needed some time away to 'appreciate what he has'.

Since his return, full of promises, I have found he is buying viagra. He bought 28 in February and 28 this month. I called him out and they're being kept at work, for me and him of course. He has no history of ED, and hasnt been near me for months intimately... I tried to be intimate in February and he rejected me.

He is totally denying the affair is ongoing but it is quite evident it is... What do i do? How do i get the truth?

He left work around midnight on Saturday and didnt come home until 2:30 am, we only live 20 minutes away. It is obvious, but he cries and breaks down at the thought of separating. Why wouldnt he just leave me given that i have caught him out so much, or why wouldnt he stop? I'm very confused, i have 2 children with him who are 10 and 7, and this has been going on almost a year now. Is he a bad person? Or does he have mental health issues? I can't do anything because i dont get the truth...

Help an anxious Mum our please, i dont know what to do but the thought of my family separating is tearing me apart

Thanks.

I am so sorry you are facing this. I can feel your fear and sorrow through your letter.

Sometimes you have to accept the unacceptable. He is having an affair and has turned his back on you emotionally.

You need an attorney right this minute. Your ws might be moving money. He could be doing things like buy houses, renting apartments. Whatever he is doing is not for you and your future.

You HAVE to get some info to make decisions. You can’t live like this. It is going to affect your health and your children need you.

If your girlfriend or daughter were telling you this story, what advice would you give?

If he's buying Viagra, it isn't just an emotional affair.

I'm sorry that he's doing this to your family. I second Cooley's advice. Please see a lawyer and protect yourself and your children.

I’m so sorry he is lying, gaslighting, and literally abusing you and your children. You don’t NEED him to confess in order for you to take action to further protect yourself and family. If he got that quantity of viagra and keeps them at work….there is no other logical explanation.

We all understand where you are right now. Of course he is crying, he doesn’t want a divorce, he is cake eating. Start practicing the 180. But remember, it is for YOU to gain clarity, not to change him. Be polite in front of your children, but that’s it. He needs to sleep on the couch or in another room. No more laundry or cooking for him. Treat him like an annoying brother. Have you consulted a lawyer? If not please see 2-3 of them.